Men love to be brave don’t they? That macho male feel of being the provider and protector of all, is an inbuilt trait. That puffing of the chest and the feeling of being in control. But there is one thing that can bring a man down or put him back in his box as it were. More scary than a marauding lion charging at him, more scary than the brakes on his car failing on the cliff edge. Yes if there is one thing that can put a man in fear of his life...well...it’s “The look.”
Every man has experienced it. Every man knows the shadow of gloom that can shrowd a perfectly good social outing and bring a rain of plague like locusts descending on the Egyptians. One throwaway comment that can bring the wrath of all that God had never intended when creating woman into one cacophony of doom! All in one glance.
So what can cue this? What can bring this icy glare that befalls man at any time?
Well apparently anything really. From my research, the look is global. An inherent gene women have been granted from their mothers. The one flaw that God must still be scratching his head about when he looks at the blueprint. Standing there in his God Robe with a pencil in his mouth and a look of confusion still wracking his brain as he rubs the back of his neck wondering how did he mess up on that one.
One of my friends recently was put in the unenviable position of being asked “Do you like this dress on me?” A simple question that could be clichéd where the man would have a look of hesitation on him and not knowing what way to answer. But casually and after fifteen years of marriage he said, “Well you might have gotten away with it a few years ago” and went back to his I-pad. Not only did he get “The look” he also got the cold treatment for two days after. (The cold treatment will be discussed at a later date.)
The look can also be given in response to such questions as, “Why? what have you been doing all day?” to the bedraggled mother of babies. Or on such occasions of “Do you mind if I go away for the weekend with the lads?”
But “The look” is more than ...well a look. It is a weapon. Sometimes when the look has been issued a man doesn’t even have to answer. He will just put his head down and say “Ok, sorry I won’t then” and cower back to the corner he came from. It is the unspoken rebuke that comes before a rebuke has even been issued! It doesn’t even have venom in it. I think the unblinking eyes is what does it. Man knows at this stage that his mate is ready for a showdown and wont blink as behind those calculating eyes is a factory of genes which are triggering hormones into malicious thoughts of how to exact vengeance.
But sometimes the look has a double side. As the female of the species eyes up the situation and sees that sometimes things may be used to her advantage, the arms are folded and the slight semblance of a smile breaks out....that and “the nod.” The Nod is not an affirmation that everything is hunky dorey but more a confirmation of “So you think you are getting away with this do you?”
Yes “The Nod” can be as damning. The Nod is saying, “yes, off you go away for your little weekend... but God help you when you get back!”
Post Note: I gave this little blog to wife to peruse before publishing, She just nodded slowly and said, “It’s fine.”
Every man has experienced it. Every man knows the shadow of gloom that can shrowd a perfectly good social outing and bring a rain of plague like locusts descending on the Egyptians. One throwaway comment that can bring the wrath of all that God had never intended when creating woman into one cacophony of doom! All in one glance.
So what can cue this? What can bring this icy glare that befalls man at any time?
Well apparently anything really. From my research, the look is global. An inherent gene women have been granted from their mothers. The one flaw that God must still be scratching his head about when he looks at the blueprint. Standing there in his God Robe with a pencil in his mouth and a look of confusion still wracking his brain as he rubs the back of his neck wondering how did he mess up on that one.
One of my friends recently was put in the unenviable position of being asked “Do you like this dress on me?” A simple question that could be clichéd where the man would have a look of hesitation on him and not knowing what way to answer. But casually and after fifteen years of marriage he said, “Well you might have gotten away with it a few years ago” and went back to his I-pad. Not only did he get “The look” he also got the cold treatment for two days after. (The cold treatment will be discussed at a later date.)
The look can also be given in response to such questions as, “Why? what have you been doing all day?” to the bedraggled mother of babies. Or on such occasions of “Do you mind if I go away for the weekend with the lads?”
But “The look” is more than ...well a look. It is a weapon. Sometimes when the look has been issued a man doesn’t even have to answer. He will just put his head down and say “Ok, sorry I won’t then” and cower back to the corner he came from. It is the unspoken rebuke that comes before a rebuke has even been issued! It doesn’t even have venom in it. I think the unblinking eyes is what does it. Man knows at this stage that his mate is ready for a showdown and wont blink as behind those calculating eyes is a factory of genes which are triggering hormones into malicious thoughts of how to exact vengeance.
But sometimes the look has a double side. As the female of the species eyes up the situation and sees that sometimes things may be used to her advantage, the arms are folded and the slight semblance of a smile breaks out....that and “the nod.” The Nod is not an affirmation that everything is hunky dorey but more a confirmation of “So you think you are getting away with this do you?”
Yes “The Nod” can be as damning. The Nod is saying, “yes, off you go away for your little weekend... but God help you when you get back!”
Post Note: I gave this little blog to wife to peruse before publishing, She just nodded slowly and said, “It’s fine.”